Have you ever considered how many of your loved ones – close friends and family members are on Facebook? Most likely, you will notice that the older generation is completely not there in Facebook – they avoid Facebook just like they avoid a lot of other new generation applications.
And even close friends would love to be in touch the good old way – in person or over telephone. When was the last time you wished a loved one on their special day – their birthdays? Today, most often than not, you are reminded of birthdays by Facebook and all you do is leave a message wishing happy birthday. Often time zone differences cause even these half-hearted wishes to reach earlier or later. How much more it would be if you could actually pick up that phone and call them instead? However, you only have 24 hours in a day and if you spend most of your waking hours checking your Facebook status updates, it is quite likely that you end up cribbing “I don’t have time to make those phone calls”. And that is precisely why you should avoid excessive Facebook usage.
A hand-written invitation rather than an event notification in Facebook goes a long way in adding the personal warmth to your invite. The person receiving it genuinely feels appreciated and would take the extra effort to attend your function – be it a wedding invite or an anniversary party.
On a similar note, a thank you note delivered at least as an email has a much better impact than one which is hastily posted on Facebook. After all, if the intention is to honestly thank someone, why not go to the extra length to make them feel special? Avoid Facebook and develop more real life relationships with people. After all, if you are sick and bedridden, you would want someone to visit you in person, rather than leave a “get well soon” message on Facebook and send you a photo of a bunch of roses.
Often excessive Facebook usage takes away the advantages of communication between members of different generations. This is especially true in the case of grandparents and grandchildren. In this age of nuclear families, it is important that the older generation does not feel lonely and left out. Social media sites like Facebook are essentially breaking the already fragile social structure of the human society and it is important that each of us consciously decide to avoid it.
Kids these days often spend time chatting with their buddies on Facebook and checking out profile pictures of random strangers from the opposite sex. If parents can encourage kids to avoid Facebook and instead spend time with other family members – be it siblings, cousins, parents or grandparents, then they will grow up to be better individuals. You cannot teach your child values like compassion and sharing through Facebook applications. Certain important life lessons can only be learned through real life experiences. Kids need to play with other kids by sharing their physical toys in order to learn how to play by the rules, how to work in a team and so on. Excessive time spend on social media sites can cause children as well as adults to become introverts. It is often noticed that people who spend a lot of time on Facebook find it extremely difficult to hold an interesting real life conversation.
Therefore, it is important that people of all ages – kids as well as adults avoid Facebook and appreciate the finer aspects of life such as the sweet smell of a rose or a genuine helping hand to a random stranger on Facebook.